It were endless to dispute on everything that is disputable. William Penn
Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters. Romans 14:1
Encourage one another… 1 Thess 5:11
I have resigned from the debating team!
These days, it makes no sense to me to argue with another about matters that are disputable or decided by opinion and personal preference. I wasn’t always eager to step down from such activities, but these days, I am. I’ve lost interest in going at another believer at length, while trying to convince him or her to see things my way, especially when Scripture is the topic of hot debate. Instead, I’ve learned to depend on two guiding principles to help me stay far away from controversy with others:
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8
…if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Phil 3:15
Today, if you’re struggling with a friendship or family connection that leads you into arguments about disputable things, my advice is to resign from the debating team.
Give yourself a moment to reflect on what’s being said.
Use Holy Spirit discernment to determine if this is about doctrine or opinion.
If this conversation (argument) you’re involved in is about matters of opinion and not related to revealed truth as accepted by the body of Christ, Church tradition, or family rules of behavior, speak your piece calmly, then walk away, praying and trusting fully in God’s ability to guide you and those you love closer to grace and away from conflict.
Prayer and meditation help in determining which battles to fight and when to walk away.
Prayer always makes the choice easier and our goal attainable.
Prayer puts us in the place where we can speak honestly to God.
Meditation allows God to speak honestly with us. When we listen and act according to His dictates we many not be popular, but we will most likely be guided by a sense that it is well with our souls. That’s serenity, and its worth a lot!