In the spring of our friendship everything was new; fresh. It smelled good. Things heated up pretty quickly though, and our friendship’s summer sprang into being. Some days were intense. After a while a chill slipped in; the summer of our time together turned to fall. Leaves fell. Everything turned brown. New growth slowed. Energy once used to fuel summer fun dissipated, and we settled into a slow and gradual rest from all our “working.”
In the winter of our friendships, some do, but not all.
The difference between those relationships that continue to grow (albeit more slowly), and those that fade away is reciprocity. If you want to have a friend, you have to be a friend…
Sometimes landscapes, and people, and friends need a respite. Sometimes they need a break. Sometimes they need a chance to experience a longing for that other that no one else can fill.
Long time friends agree that winter is for resting…revitalization…the business of storing up energy that will be needed later.
We don’t always have to be on top of our game, do we?
We’ve grown beyond that, haven’t we?
True friends say, YES!
It’s important that in the winter of our friendships we work at getting ready for summer once more. It’s in the winter that we pull the weeds, burn the tares, throw out the thistles, and fertilize and cover fatigued root systems.
Friends get tired, too.
When we do, we pray for discernment, and as we pray, we wait and remain strong in our conviction that life is good, God is great, and friendship is ever-changing, but still one of the greatest gifts God has ever given.
Its important now, in winter, that we accept brown as the new green!
Wait for it!
Never rush it!
Trust in Him for all things.
Be content and wait…
What part of friendship’s four seasons do you dread most and why? What would need to happen before you could see brown as the new green in your most valued friendship?