I’ve learned a few things over the years. Most of all, I’ve learned how to be a good parent. Note: I did not say I’ve learned to be a perfect parent. I, personally, don’t know many of them and would never claim to be one. I’ve heard that they are on the endangered species list, but don’t quote me on that. I can never site my sources on that kinda material.
What I’m offering my readers today are my top 5 tips for successful parenting. If these can help even one parent do a better job of raising happy kids, my work in writing this will have been well spent. Thanks for stopping by today, and if you think my advice is solid, please share it with your friends. We parents have to stick together!
5 Tried and True tips for surviving parenthood
1 Say yes as often as you can, and let your no, be “No!” Never go back on a NO, and never say NO for convenience sake alone. Too many parents are wound up in their own lives and ignoring their kids when they need them most. Don’t be one of those guys/gals.
2 Understand that respect is earned, not magically awarded. Act respectfully toward others and with your kids, and they will do the same.
3 Consistency is Job 1 (because without it, everything else falls apart). Love consistently. Encourage consistently. Stand by your kids consistently. Provide for their safety every day. Never forget what treasures they are in your life. Consistently point them to Jesus. Never stop praying for them. Be their hero. Be the same mom and dad for your kids every day and battles over petty stuff won’t be so big of an issue for you. Kids love boundaries, they just don’t know it yet. 😉
4 Never threaten what you can’t deliver. Our job as parents isn’t to frustrate our kids or to drive ourselves insane making and breaking rules we, ourselves, put in place. I’ve found that it’s far better to enforce small, incremental rules and punishments, than to threaten what one cannot deliver.
5 Trust, but verify! Always get off the couch and check on Jr’s progress. If he says he has cleaned his room, you say, “Show me.” If she says she did her homework, you reply, “Let’s go over it together.” Don’t do this to catch your child unaware and bring the hammer of parental accuracy down on their heads. Do it to show them that integrity is important and hard work is noticed and praised in your home. Always be checking back on what your child is doing. Always praise faithful service and personally consistent habits of truth-telling. And remember, you aren’t perfect, so some days you’ll do this better than others.
There you have my top 5 bits of parenting advice. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
What is your best advice for someone parenting wee ones these days? What have you done at your house that made parenting a whole lot easier?
Point your kids in the right direction—
when they’re old they won’t be lost. Proverbs 22:6 MSG